Things are not always as they seem. That goes for people and situations.
There are billions of people on the earth. For the most part we are all very similar. I mean, think about it. We all have the same basic make-up (and I don’t mean Cover girl or Maybelline). To narrow my thoughts down a bit let’s talk specifically about mothers.
What is a mother? Thanks to Google.com I get this answer, “a woman in relation to a child or children to whom she has given birth.”
Cool, well now that we have established what a (incredibly generic) mother is, what is she supposed to look like? That opinion actually varies depending on who you ask. Some people like to think that a mom should look like a June Cleaver. That’s cool and all, and if that is your thing then go for it! I like to mix it up though.
A mom can look like anything from June Cleaver to that woman covered in tattoos, piercings, and colored hair (or a man, because apparently that’s a thing now?).
I don’t know if the June Cleavers of the world get that judging look when they are walking through the store, but God knows if you have tattoos and piercings while carting your two-year old you get some weird looks. Now that I put bright purple/pink streaks in my hair those looks have multiplied. (Last month it was blue.) I’m having some fun. The hair is sitting on top of my head. I think it looks cute, and my son loves it, so why do complete strangers get all uppity when I have brightly colored hair and you can see my tattoo?
Oh my gosh, that woman has unnatural hair and permanent ink from 7 years ago! She must make horrible parenting decisions.
No, don’t worry, no one has said that to me, and if they did I would probably laugh. For me, coloring my hair funky colors (in a tasteful manner) and having something meaningful permanently etched into my body is a form of self-expression I embrace and encourage other people to embrace as well. It is harmless really, and fun for me and Ariana (who does my hair for me), and Xander as well. The kids love looking at the ladies with brightly colored hair. And if you can’t make the kids smile, you just need to wake up and try again.
Being a mom doesn’t mean you have to look a certain way, despite what the media may tell you. It doesn’t matter if you are a single mom, co-parenting, Angelina Jolie, June Cleaver, or the mom with multiple colored hair and 6 facial piercings. If you are a mom, and if you are a good mom, then rock on sister.