Why you should love yourself

Whether you are in or out of a relationship you should still love yourself. It always seems to be easier when you are with someone who is showing you love and affection everyday, but if you are single or healing from a fresh heartbreak – whether it is your first or tenth – that can be hard to do. Usually right after a heartbreak your friends have a tendency to let you know/tell you how beautiful or amazing you are. Them telling you that may be all well and good, and certainly appreciated, but unless you yourself believe you are beautiful or amazing you won’t believe anyone else. Though it may help to move the process along. For now I just want to let you know why you should love yourself.

You are unique!

You are you, and there is no one else like you in the world. That’s pretty awesome. There is no one in the world who can do things like you. No voice, thought patterns, or anything else. The sheer chance of you even existing is less than 1 in…some really large number I don’t know how to write out or even spell…but it’s big!

You are beautiful!

Beauty is not how perfect your hair is, flawless your skin is, or fashionable your clothes are. You beauty is in your heart, soul, and mind. Your beauty is in the kindness you show others, the thoughts and actions that improve the world around you. It is the way you love yourself and others. It is your selflessness. It is your strength. Speaking of…

You are strong!

Seriously, you are strong. If you are recovering from a heartbreak and you’re reading this I can already tell you are trying to get back up and are looking for guidance in how to do so. You are surviving this, even if it is just one day at a time for now. Baby steps friends. You don’t run before you crawl.

 

You are not defined by someone else’s opinion of you. If they choose to not love you or be there, to not respond to texts or phone calls, it does not measure your worth, it just measures their actions. You are loved, by yourself and by others. You deserve happiness as much as anyone else, but you have to be happy with you first.

Be you. Be unique. Be strong. Be beautiful. Be strong. Breathe.