Most days we assume our loved ones will be there to share in important moments – whether they are big or small. Most days we take our loved ones for granted. We’re never ready for the loss of someone we care for. For those of you who haven’t read my last blog, my mother just died unexpectedly. Slowly, and unintentionally, I have thought of things that my mother will never get to see that I wanted her there for… or at least be able to call her up to tell her. I’ve compiled a short list of moments that I wish she could be there for.
- Graduating from grad school.
- Seeing my children grow up and all their moments (Kindergarten, prom, high school graduation, getting married).
- Seeing my future children.
- Reading the book I will (eventually) publish.
- She never got to spend Christmas with my kids (she lived 5 hours away).
- Phone calls. Mom was a talker, so getting caught on the phone with her could be a nightmare if you were busy.
- There will be no new pictures of her, but at least I have a lot of older ones.
Of course this list is incomplete, but if I try to list more we’re going to be here for a while and I’m not up for crying now. I won’t sit here and say don’t take your loved ones for granted. I read a ton of articles just like this one over the years, but I never thought it was something I would have to deal with. My mom was strong. She was a survivor. I took those things for granted and assumed she’d survive anything.
Our loved ones are not invulnerable. Don’t skip the phone call next time they ring.